If you know your soulmate in this article, we have bad news for you. One percent of the world’s population is psychopaths. The psychopath is not the person who is waiting for you to be sharpened in a dark staircase. This is not a serial killer and not a resident of the hospital for the mentally ill. This may be your colleague, who get away with any frills at work. Someone’s “ideal” former, who once ran away with another. Or a completely ordinary guy who prepared your morning coffee.
1. It surrounds you with declarations of love and compliments. It seems to you that this is the perfect partner for you.
When you first meet a psychopath, events develop rapidly. He tells you that you have a lot in common, that you are perfect for each other. Like a chameleon, it reflects your hopes, dreams, fears to form a trusting and exciting relationship. He constantly wants to communicate with you and seems fascinated by you completely. Your Facebook or VKontakte wall will be littered with songs, compliments, poems and cute jokes that only two of you can understand.
2. He hunts for your emotions, telling pitiful stories
You will quickly find a place in your heart for pity for him. After all, he is so cute and innocent. Not at all like the cinematic images of psychopaths – cruel men with a contemptuous smile in an expensive car. Surely he will mention his ex, who is still in love with him. But all he wants is peace and tranquility, he hates dramas. However, you will soon notice that dramatic stories constantly surround him and people close to him.
3. He draws you into a love triangle.
Once you are on the hook, you will fall into a love triangle and even a polygon. The psychopath will surround himself with former and potential mistresses and all those who pay attention to him. There will be exes, about whom he told you earlier and assured that you are superior in all of them. You will feel embarrassed, and you will get the impression that he is always in demand from the opposite sex.
4. He constantly distorts reality and behaves abnormally
The psychopath always denies that he is manipulating you, and even ignores the actual evidence of this. He reacts critically and scornfully if you try to disprove his tales with facts. He will shift the blame for the situation on you: you are too impressionable and inadequately perceive the situation. He will convince you that the problem is not in him, but in your wrong reaction to normal events.
5. He accuses you of emotions that he provokes
The psychopath will say that you are too jealous, although you frankly flirted with the former, often even in social networks, for everyone to see. He will say that you are too sticky, although he deliberately ignored you for several days. He provokes your reaction in order to show others to your targets how hysterical you are and to cause sympathy for yourself. You seemed to be a calm person? Meeting with a psychopath will change you beyond recognition. Fortunately, temporarily.
6. You notice pathological lies and excuses
He always has an excuse, even in situations where it is not required. He comes up with another lie faster than you can ask a question. He constantly blames others, he himself always has nothing to do with it. He spends time inventing explanations for his behavior, rather than improving it. Even caught in a frank lie , he does not express remorse or embarrassment. Sometimes it seems that he wanted you to catch him.
7. He provokes jealousy and rivalry, while maintaining a mask of innocence
At first all the attention of the psychopath is focused on you. And you do not understand what happens when he suddenly switches to another person. He constantly does things that make you doubt that you mean something to him. If he is active in social networks, he lures ex-songs, photos, jokes that were significant for their couple. He seems to be actively searching for a partner and at the same time ignores you.
8. He holds your attention and undermines self-esteem.
First, he brings down a stream of admiration that knocks you down, and then you become uninteresting to him. You hurt, because you have already caught fire these passionate relationships . And now you feel like a housekeeper with him and no more.
9. The psychopath is selfish and requires tireless attention to itself
He sucked the energy out of you and filled your whole life. He requires constant worship of himself. You thought you were the only person who could make him happy, but now you understand that anyone with a pulse will work for this role. But the truth is that no one can fill the void in the psychopath’s soul.
10. You do not recognize yourself
Your love and compassion has become overwhelming panic and anxiety. You apologize and cry more than ever in your life. You sleep badly and wake up in a bad and anxious mood. You can not understand what happened to you, where is this cheerful, relaxed, calm person now? After talking with a psychopath, you feel exhausted, devastated and deprived of an adequate perception of the world. Life rolls upside down: you spend money, break ties with friends and family and are constantly looking for the cause of these actions.
A relationship with a psychopath is a black hole. No matter how much you hurt, you will always be guilty of everything. He ignores your best qualities, and self-doubt grows in you, you change beyond recognition. You will heal the injuries from this relationship for a long time, it will seem to you that you will never be all right.
But you can put your nerves in order. First of all, eliminate all contacts with the psychopath: correspondence, letters, and even “peeping” behind him in social networks. At first it will be unbearably hard for you, but over time, relief will come. You will feel that sanity comes back to you and chaos disappears from your life. This experience may even be useful in the end. You will learn to value yourself and set boundaries for psychopaths so that they never disturb your mind.