Why we are always unhappy with everything

Circumstances have nothing to do with it. Everything is in your head.Our happy and Unhappy Mood is the Product of our Brain.


Reality eludes us

We are awake 16 hours a day, but spend much less in the present moment. Most of the time we dangle in our minds, ignoring the world around us. As Billy Pilgrim from Vonnegut’s novel, we constantly travel to the past and fly away to the future.

In the course of one study Adaptive Role in Internal Mentation a chart was made of the thoughts that a person visits during the day. Nearly half are memories and thoughts about the future.

Mind Activity Chart

All these abstractions capture us and make us ignore the real world. This is the problem of our constant discontent .

We listen to the inner voice all the time which make us sometime unhappy. He can entertain pleasant memories or dreams, but more often causes stress and fear, comes up with imaginary dangers. At the same time, the only thing that actually exists is the environment and what it has to offer.

There is nothing but the present moment, and this moment causes dissatisfaction less often than one’s own thoughts. If you bring this idea to the end, it turns out that there is not even death . The outstanding philosopher of the 20th century, Ludwig Wittgenstein, believed that real, tangible death would never happen in life, which means that many of our fears and anxieties, growing out of the fear of death, are unfounded.

Death is not an event of life. Death is not experienced. If eternity is understood not as infinite time duration, but timelessness, then the one who lives in the present lives forever.

Ludwig Wittgenstein, philosopher

The only way to get out of the cycle of dissatisfaction – often turn off the inner voice, so that it no longer interferes with the perception of reality.

However, immersion in one’s own thoughts is not a pernicious habit, but a feature of the work of our brain.

Why do we sink thoughts

When a person goes into himself, the network of the passive mode of the brain (Default Mode Network, DMN) is activated. When we concentrate on something, the activity of this network decreases, and when we lose focus, it increases, and we float out of reality into our thoughts.

Due to the work of the DMN, we remember Adaptive Role in Internal Mentation events of the past and imagine what might happen in the future , we form an attitude towards ourselves and explore our emotions. Thanks to the same system, we assume that other people think and feel, we determine the justice of our actions, we evaluate the social characteristics and status of the group. All this is necessary for a person to live in society.

At the same time, excessive DMN activity is characteristic of depression. People with a depressive disorder job network is activated Default mode network in depression: A pathway to impaired affective cognition?both during rest, and in the course of performance of tasks. This reduces the activity of networks responsible for concentration.

Suppressing active DMN work needed The role of default network deactivation in cognition and disease.to perform tasks, feelings of well-being and peace of mind. And you can do this by consciously concentrating on external or internal objects.

How to be in the present moment and avoid Unhappy Feelings

Study Network activity beyond an active task showed that meditation helps reduce DMN activity. And the effect is noticeable both during and after practice.

Moreover, since meditation improves The dynamic properties of the bold activity are associated with skills and skills. attention and working memory increases Effects of mindfulness on psychological health: a review of empirical studies feeling of well-being and helping to fight Medium review and meta-analysis. with anxiety and depression, scientists concluded that these effects are due to a decrease in DMN activity.

It is not necessary to begin to meditate in the classical way: sitting in silence and concentrating on the emptiness in the head. Instead, you can focus on your life. And it will be an exciting adventure.

As soon as you turn off the inner talker and immerse yourself in the experience of the moment, you begin to notice a lot of new things: what an interesting timbre your friend’s voice is, how best to fold the dishes so that it stops falling out of the closet, what incredible color of autumn leaves and how they contrast with the sky . Most of your “hotelok” fall off by themselves, leaving only the necessary and important.

We have everything we really want. This is true, but only if we live in the present moment.

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