4. Dreams of a perfect partner
Everyone has in mind a set of qualities that an ideal partner should possess. But life usually spits on these lists.
To be happy, you must love a person with all your heart, feel easy and comfortable next to him, and he must accept you for what you are. At least the first two points coincided – well, you have found what you need.
5. Forget the perfect life and be happy
Just as there is no perfect partner, there is no perfect destiny. Life is what you invest in it, so if you are not ready to work seriously and make efforts, it means that you have decided to be unhappy.
You can create your own world, the most beautiful of all worlds.
6. Wealth as an end in itself
Many people live with the idea of ??becoming a millionaire. This is a good goal, but it will take a lot of work to achieve it.
Do not focus on large amounts. The main thing is to find a cause that will be your passion, and self-actualization, then the money will come.
7. Hope for good luck
You should not wait when you are lucky. Appreciate your life and be grateful for what you already have.
Excuses – this is your attempt not to feel like shit when you once again do not do what you should have done long ago.
9. Thoughts on ex
You broke up, and for good reason. Remembering your former love, think not about the person, but about the lessons that life has brought to you. Do not focus on feelings for someone who will never be with you. It will only destroy a new relationship and make you suffer.
It is difficult to admit that you were mistaken in something. It’s just that other people had more knowledge or ability to do something right. So stop resisting, just accept it as a fact. The less obstinacy you have, the more open you are to something new. Think about how much you can experience and feel if you try to understand and accept someone else’s opinion besides your own.
Stop moving tasks to tomorrow, live today. If you are constantly postponing some business, consider whether it is worth taking it at all? Maybe you do not need it? And if necessary, take it right now: constant procrastination causes guilt and stress. Is it worth it to suffer?
12. Luggage of memories
You should not drag behind a baggage of memories, especially about past relationships. If you loved someone very much or thought you loved, then you will subconsciously compare him with a new person who is not guilty of anything.
Getting a new relationship, get rid of the old. Not only in life, but also in my head.
This is true for love and for all relationships in general: with friends, acquaintances, colleagues.
Thoughts and words materialize. So change your life setting to “everything will be fine.” Nothing is impossible for a person who believes in it.
Since the world is a projection of our thoughts, we know for sure that everyone is gossiping about us (because we do it ourselves). A vicious circle: you can not fulfill the advice number 1, that is, not to think about someone else’s opinion, if you yourself do not stop criticizing other people.
Just remember: you were not in their shoes, even if you think you were. Everyone has his own cockroaches in his head, and in life – their own circumstances, so fasten.
Social networks make people miserable. We look at our former classmates, classmates, and acquaintances and are green with envy, feeling like nothing .
Next time you catch yourself on this feeling, think about this: “Would I like to become a person I envy?” Surely not, you love yourself (even if somewhere deep inside).
You are looking at someone else’s life you don’t know. You have no idea what this person is thinking. Maybe when he dives into the pool of his private home, does he hate himself or is he wildly afraid of something? Maybe you, walking in the woods on a sunny day, are experiencing much more pleasure than he is, basking in the white sand of the Maldives?
Stop looking at others. If you feel good now, then everything is correct. If not, make it good.
Happy people, as a rule, have self-esteem (just not to be confused with the bloated ego). They are satisfied with themselves and radiate confidence.
There is no reason to doubt yourself. If you have traits that you hate, there are two ways: to accept or change them. Every person has everything at once: the libertine, and the puritan, and the lying bastard, and the gentleman. You choose who you should be.
17. Dependence on others
No one will fill the void within you. No one will make you positive and self-sufficient, if you are unhappy with fate. To share your happiness with someone else, you must first become happy yourself. So do not even hope that your success is in the hands of others. Only in yours.
18. The past
To live in the past is to bury your present. There were mistakes – OK, who didn’t have them? Arrange a magnificent funeral for your memories, just remember the lessons and live on .
19. Total control
Sometimes you just need to relax and let life go on. You cannot control everything, and you will have to put up with it. Otherwise, you will be constantly nervous, but in the end, do not change anything. There are just things that are beyond your control. They must be taken as they are.
People think that others should meet their expectations. That’s bullshit. Nobody owes you anything, neither do you owe anything. No one should be polite, attentive, neat, honest, pleasant to talk to, clean in the end. Nothing should be perfect, delightful, unforgettable, but it can be. If it is – fine, if not – you will not be upset. Be ready to accept everything that sends you life, and find happiness.
Please share your experience that how we can make our life pleasant?